My defining moment… A pivotal change which catapulted Christie into a passion for helping people build healthier relationships.
In early 2003 my mother had become very ill and unable to keep down any food for weeks. On the morning of February 3rd, I found her at home, emaciated and weak. I decided to take her to the hospital and within a few short hours of our arrival, the doctors determined she had cancer. I was stunned. How can anyone be prepared for a moment like this? I looked at her with both fear and anger. I raised my voice, “I feel like I’m in a rat race mom! There’s not enough time!” My mother slowly turned her head, looked at me with her bright beautiful blue eyes full of tears and whispered, “Time is time honey, it’s what you do with IT.” My eyes swelled up. My body slumped over and I fell into her chest sobbing uncontrollably, wanting so desperately to give back to her which she always gave to me. As I wrapped my arms around her and nuzzled my nose into her neck. I wanted my mother to feel safe and make all her pain go away. It was in that moment I had clarity. I knew I wanted to offer more than I was. I didn’t want to become a doctor, although that was a fleeting thought for a few seconds. I wanted to help support people in some way. I wanted to be able to relieve their pain, support them in any way I could.
Eventually her body succumbed to Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma. I remember having to make THE call to my brother and sister to reveal she didn’t have much time. My mother waited for them. They needed that last moment with her.
My brother drove us home. I sat in the back seat, tired and emotionally drained. As I looked out the car window and up to the trees, I could see colors dancing around them as one solid piece of energy. It was the oddest experience. I didn’t know what to make of it and never spoke of it again. Years later I learned my mother’s passing had given me something, a new skill that I couldn’t explain but it would help guide me and the people I meet in the years to come.
In the darkest moment, something clicked within me. It was an inner knowing that many of the things I was doing at the time weren’t right anymore. It was a turning point. I was angry, frustrated, I had lost my mother and my best friend. And in time, I also lost my marriage to a husband who had left me emotionally years prior to our divorce.
I’m sharing my story with you because I know it’s important in “Getting to know who I am.” The best version of myself IS the best project I will ever undertake. I know that’s what YOU too.
A deep level of understanding plays an important role here, especially in relationships. There are many types of relationships that you WILL have throughout your life from the person that bags your groceries, work colleagues, family, friends, a neighbor and to the person you come home to at the end of the day. Relationships will constantly be changing and evolving. Some relationships may be good and others will be TOXIC to you, your family and in the workplace. How you communicate within them will determine how you move forward in life.
If there is a breakdown somewhere within a relationship, you can become frustrated, burnt out, angry and wonder if it’s worth saving? Can I rebuild it or how do I know when it’s time to leave or make a change? It’s important to be raw and real because toxic relationships can impact healthy, focus and your bank account.
Recall what my mother said, “Time is time, it’s what you do with it.” Let’s approach it in a way that’s helpful and can get you back on track.
With love and understanding,
- Certified Emotion Code Practitioner 2018
- Mental Health and Anxiety 2017
- Transcendental Meditation (TM) September 2016
- Masters Figure Tall Competitor (OPA) 2015
- Reiki Level II and Huna Level I 2008
- Yoga and Meditation Practitioner (+300 hours) 2008
- Certified Personal Trainer 2004
- Nutrition and Wellness Coach 2003
- HR Management 1994 to 2016
- Occupational Health & Food Safety Expert, HACCP Certified 1994 to 2017
- International Trade Economics and Business, B.A. Carleton University 1994