“We do not heal the past by dwelling there; we heal the past by living fully in the present.” ~Marianne Williamson
It seems that many people are experiencing a rough patch. A time of loneliness, loss, suffering, confusion and emotional pain.
This is a period of great healing. It’s a period of growth and transition, or more like transformation.
The epic journeyman. The hermit card. The solo warrior. The heroine. The hero.
We are all this person in our own story.
And, in each of these mythical tales, there lies a period of separateness, aloneness and thus, the importance of it.
Most of us suffer from feeling lonely thinking it’s going to last forever, but it never does.
If you are currently feeling lonely, spiritual and crying out for friends, rest assured, here are some themes you can expect when experiencing a natural period of loneliness on your journey:
It doesn’t last forever. It only ever lasts for the time needed to heal. Try to reduce isolation, get outdoors and spend time with people that matter to you.
At some point, you are rejoined by true friends. The journeyman is always rejoined by true friends before they all embark on new adventures again. While the ring bearer often walks his journey (bears his burden) alone he always is rejoined by the company of others at a later date. I use the masculine pronoun on purpose here because…
It develops the masculine in you. Outward strength, courage, action-taking skills are developed during these periods, which is why it feels so hard because it is. But there are benefits.
So you may are may not know that loneliness has a purpose.
And knowing that it won’t last forever, here are a few benefits of the hermit periods, whether they are forced on you by circumstance or they have been self-taken:
It improves discernment. Loneliness helps with improving your decision-making skills and discernment by giving you the ample time and space to discern and no one to interfere.
It cultivates personal wisdom. Loneliness helps you put everything you’ve learned into practice in your life in an authentic way by forcing you to get to know yourself. Self-care is recommended here.
It keeps relationships healthy. Loneliness can help us distill our spiritual teachings, and help one recover from grief and go through difficult without getting it all over everyone or anyone else in the way of danger.
It identifies your new core strengths. it helps you learn to love yourself on a deeper level because you learn your true strength as they are forced out of you by “having to do it alone.”
It develops a greater sense of self-worth and thus confidence. Loneliness builds confidence and eventually, improves and strengthens your relationships, both those remains and those yet to come for all the reasons above.
So if you’ve been pulling the hermit card lately, literally or figuratively, know that this period isn’t going to last forever. In most spiritual teachings and in my experience, the spiritual journeyman is only lonely for periods of time before he or she is rejoined by other. In my experience, likewise is true, and I’ve found most people can expect a period of 2 years.
Though sometimes less, sometimes more, depending on the period of the journey. Regardless, loneliness periods often represent our best periods for spiritual growth and transformation, so take advantage of it.
During this time, I suggest:
– Spending some time getting to know yourself on a deeper level
– Deepening your relationship with your core friends, personal guides, or spiritual supporters.
… cultivating wisdom through books, teachings, videos, nature walks all the while and you’re blossoming. (you simply can’t see it yet, but trust me you are).
Take time for quiet periods of ritual, meditation and time in nature most easily on your own or in a guided way. If you haven’t done it before, I recommended starting with a guided practice then using that to move onto your own way. But if you have, still continue on.
Meditation can help to sooth that energy and calm the feelings of loneliness to a place where you can feel calmer and at peace.
During periods of loneliness, we gain strength, courage, wisdom, confidence, and self-worth, always returning as the victor.
If you can on your own, try to use this time to deepen your spiritual practice, sharpen your journey, bartering, instinctive skills, and listen more. If you need some social stimulation to keep you going until you eventually reunite with true friends, try going to markets, shops and other places where there are living people – this often helps lift the mood one get through this time before going back to work. Vacating work is a good way to help build up your strength. The inner strength.
In other words, I’m sorry you’re alone. It really feels mucky at the time. We all have to be at times. I have even experienced it a few times. It feels like it happens every 10 years…
Just know there ARE benefits, reasons, and friends to make now, so now’s the time to take advantage of it.
Finally, keep in mind too that when you are lonely, clairaudience (the sense of hearing wisdom, much like a whisper) tends to develop more, so check out this article too and please do not be alarmed, this is usually normal. Depending on where you live, your ancestral heritage, your soul tribe and more, will determine who’s talking to you. If you need help with discernment, feel free to connect with me at www.christieflynn.com or firstname.lastname@example.org to reach me directly.
Otherwise, just know you can always ask who it is that is guiding you, pay attention to the signs, and believe that you’re your own expert, so if you suspect it’s an angel, a wise old sage, your core Spirit guides, a family connection, a pet, or a healing guide (to list a few) – it is.
To end, be open to anything and always have hope, journeyman, it is a path of wonder we’re after, after all.
With great love,