Harnessing Intuitive Feeling to Build and Strengthen Friendships
- Christie Flynn
- Apr 7
- 6 min read
Updated: 15 minutes ago
By Christie Flynn
“Friendship isn’t about who you’ve known the longest. It’s about who walked in, stayed present, and felt right—on a soul level.”
Introduction: The Quiet Voice of Connection
We all know what it feels like to click with someone. It’s that instant comfort, an intuitive feeling that your energy is safe with them—even if you’ve just met. Much like a soulful connection. I have a few "soul sistas," too. They're special to me. Like attracts like, especially when you're going through something. Friendships are seasonal. What I mean is, they come into your life for a reason. I had a few during my divorce (which took almost 8 years to finalize).
On the flip side, there’s that unmistakable tightness or resistance when something feels off.
I've had a few experiences where I felt completely repelled by the person.
I love talking about intuition. I consider myself very intuitive and have been tested years ago with a company from the states, before I got involved with missing person's cases (I no longer offer this service). If you can imagine an intuitive scale from zero to ten, I'm at least an eight.
Everyone is intuitive to some degree. Some more than others.
When you sense something good, not good, or experience an insightful moment, this is your intuition at work.
Intuition plays a profound role in our relationships, especially in friendship. It helps us recognize who’s aligned with us, guides us in showing up with heart, and nudges us when boundaries are needed. Our guard naturally goes up, like an invisible shield as a barrier of protection. It can also open our hearts wide open for the most beautiful experiences as well.
In this post, we’ll explore how to use your inner wisdom to cultivate meaningful friendships—those that are grounded in truth, mutual growth, and soul-level connection.
The definition of intuition is, the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning (Oxford dictionary).
Intuition is not a "gut feeling" or the "second brain" which is visceral feeling, rooted in instinct.
1. What Is Intuition—Really?
Intuition is often misunderstood as something mystical or unreliable, but it’s actually a finely tuned internal compass.
It shows up in many ways:
A subtle or strong feeling that tells you when someone is genuine—or not
A subtle pull toward (or away from) someone
A knowing without logical evidence
You’ve likely experienced moments when your intuition guided you without effort:
Thinking of someone just before they text or call
Sensing a friend was upset before they even spoke
Feeling drawn to a new connection and realizing later how deeply aligned they are
When it comes to friendships, intuition helps filter through the noise to reveal what’s real. It can even be experienced as a fast download rather than a slow systematic experience. You can direct it towards something, a person, place, or object. And it works on its own, in an organic way.
When I work with clients I use my intuitive skillset and direct in many different ways through a way that I've adopted over the years. I feel through things. I pause, get more feedback or information. I can also get massive downloads in a flash.
2. Spotting the Real Ones: Identifying Genuine Friends
You don’t need years of history to know if someone is “your people.” Intuition gives you clues early on:
You feel safe, calm, and grounded in their presence
Conversation flows easily and authentically
There’s a sense of energetic alignment—shared values, pace, and openness
I met a woman years ago after touring in Atlantic Canada. Within minutes of small talk, something deeper clicked. No performance, no pressure—just presence.
We seem to reach out to each other when one of us is going through something. Over time, we just seem to keep in touch in this way, intuitively. We check in when it matters most, even with miles between us. To me, that’s real. When I think of her, she calls and visa versa.
Your intuition also warns you when something feels off—even if you can’t quite put it into words. I've felt that many times. I let those friendships go and open space for others, the good ones to appear on my path.
Don’t dismiss that quiet “no.”
When you ignore the signs, signals, and clues, you'll learn later that it was on point. I call these lessons. Life is an experiment of sorts, leading us through experiences that we can observe through all the senses, the physical and non-physical ones. To see, hear, feel, know, smell, taste, and beyond is a language of the multi-senses that tell us a story at an energetic frequency that you can't see. I call this the language we knew long before verbal language was uncovered.
3. Nurturing Friendship Through Intuitive Awareness
Friendship thrives when both people feel seen. Intuition can help you tune into what your friend really needs:
You sense when to give space vs. when to reach out
You feel prompted to send a voice note, article, or meme at the perfect time
You show up without needing praise or proof—it just feels right
Real Talk:
You don’t need to be everything for everyone. Intuition helps you give from a grounded place, not obligation. That’s the difference between sustaining your energy and burning out.
Some people may drain your energy when talking with them or even sharing space. You feel yourself begin to fade, irritated, or angry.
4. Trusting Intuition to Set Boundaries
Sometimes, your inner voice doesn’t whisper—it warns. It may even scream!
You begin to feel exhausted after time together
You notice your boundaries being crossed subtly, repeatedly
You hear yourself justifying their behavior to yourself
That discomfort? It’s sacred intel. Your intuition is inviting you to pause and reassess. To even walk away or run.
Boundaries don’t mean you care less. They mean you care deeply about your energy and the health of the connection. Whether it’s taking a step back, shifting dynamics, or moving on entirely—intuition helps you do so with compassion.
“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.”
― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
5. Strengthening Long-Distance Friendships with Intuition
Some of the deepest friendships require zero daily maintenance. They live in the energetic field.
You think of them and suddenly get a message
You reach out just before they were about to
You feel deeply connected—even across time zones or life chapters
Personal Insight:
Some of my most meaningful friendships aren’t in my city or even my province. Yet, we exchange voice notes when it matters, pick up mid-thought when we reconnect, and always know we’re in each other’s corner.
That’s what happens when a friendship is soul-aligned.
"The language of friendship is not words but meanings." - Henry David Thoreau
6. Intuition Deepens Trust and Communication
Energetically tuned-in friendships feel different.
You sense when something is “off” even when the other person says they’re fine
You notice body language or tone shifts
You’re not afraid of silence—because presence speaks louder
When you follow your intuition, you create a safe space for honest, meaningful connection.
That’s where friendships not only grow—but heal.
"Friends are those rare people who ask how we are, and then wait to hear the answer." - Ed Cunningham
Intuition Is the Bridge to Soul-Aligned Friendship
The strongest friendships aren’t built solely on time spent—they’re built on truth, presence, and an intuitive knowing that says: “You’re safe here.”
By listening to your inner wisdom, you’ll:
Attract the right people
Recognize the ones who no longer align
Show up in ways that feel nourishing—for both of you
The more you trust your intuition, the more magnetic your friendships become.
Reflection & Invitation
🌿 What role has intuition played in your friendships?
Have you ever had a sense or feeling that steered you toward (or away from) someone?
Do you have a friendship that feels energetically aligned—even without regular contact?
I’d love to hear your story.
Share in the comments or tag me on social.
Let's celebrate the power of intuitive connection.
And the power of good friendships.
Much love,
Christie
Psychic Medium, Executive Coach, Meditation, and Teacher
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