How Soon Can You See a Medium After Someone Dies? A Guide to the Right Time for a Reading

Discover the emotional, spiritual, and practical signs that you're ready to connect with a loved one through mediumship.

When is the Right Time To Book a Reading? Written by Christie Flynn (Photo: Canva)

Grief is personal.

It moves in waves—sometimes gently, sometimes without warning—and in those early days after losing someone we love, it can feel like the world stands still.

One of the most common questions I receive as a medium is this:

“How soon is too soon to connect with a loved one in spirit?”

It’s a great question, and one that deserves compassion, truth, and perspective—not just from me, but from the spirit world itself.

On a personal note, when my mom passed, I waited a while before even thinking of the idea. I met with a woman after about nine months while visiting Sedona. It helped me better understand how I could communicate with her.

At the start of my work in this field almost ten years ago, I used to think others should wait too.

But Spirit had other plans—and over the years, they’ve shown me that the idea of “waiting” doesn’t always apply in the way we think it does.

In this post, I want to share what I’ve learned from a decade of experience, the wisdom Spirit has revealed to me, and how to trust your inner guidance if you’re wondering when the right time is for you.

This is the response I shared with a client who recently reached out to me.

Hello __________,

"First, thank you for reaching out, and my heartfelt condolences on your mum’s passing.

That you’re even asking this question says so much about the connection you shared.

I do have an understanding, as it was my mum's passing that inspired me to help others.

In my experience over the past ten years of connecting with people and animals in spirit,

I've learned that time, at least as we know it, doesn't exist in the same way on the 'other side'. 

Spirit can often communicate quite quickly, even within 24 hours of passing. That was a surprise to me early on, especially as I reflected on my own experience of losing my mum.

I once believed people needed to wait, but Spirit has shown me otherwise, time and time again.

So, when is the “right” time?

The answer is simple: when it feels right to you.

If you’re feeling called to reach out, that in itself is a signal.

A reading can offer comfort, clarity, and a sense of soulful connection, almost like heart-centered therapy.

I also know that a reading with a medium can offer some relief from the pain we experience in our heart, body, and mind. I've personally experienced it about a year after my mother passed on.

Grief is a whole-body experience. It does soften over time.

It’s not just about receiving messages; it’s about receiving love, reassurance, and the knowing that they’re okay… and that you will be too.

Sometimes we look to others for the “right” answer, when the truth is that we already know. Trust your inner sense of timing.

Peace of mind makes such a difference. 

If someone has told you “they need more time,” it’s worth considering that this belief may be outdated—or perhaps that particular connection simply wasn’t available at the time.

It happens. But it doesn’t mean Spirit isn’t willing or able.

Sometimes it's not the right medium.

And please, never think that it has something to do with you if

a medium isn't able to make a connection.

I hope this brings you some peace. 

If and when you feel ready.

Sending much love,

Christie

www.christieflynn.com